the best way i have learned to do this, is by getting excited, and what's the best way to get excited? Falling in love, but an all inclusive love, not the squirtable kind. When you love something you play with it, you spend time with it, you see its seasons, and its patterns. Anything else is just commitment.
I am taking the word faery back from the homos, and I am taking the word love back from married people. (lol. sorry I couldn't resist)